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For many people, attending or organising a funeral wake can feel unfamiliar, especially if it is their first time doing so. Understanding what typically happens can ease some of that uncertainty.
While the exact format varies by religion and family preference, most wakes in Singapore share a similar overall structure.
This guide is best read alongside our overview on how to plan a funeral in Singapore.
This guide expands on the day-of-service step of our how to plan a funeral in Singapore article.
Overview
The Purpose of a Funeral Wake
A wake gives relatives and friends the opportunity to pay their respects, offer condolences to the family, and take part in prayers, rituals or remembrance activities before the final farewell.
It also gives the immediate family a period of togetherness and support during an emotionally difficult time.
Not every family holds an extended wake -- some prefer a simpler direct funeral instead.
Structure
A Typical Wake Schedule
Wakes commonly run for one to five days, with visiting hours set aside each day for guests to arrive, pay respects and sit with the family. Prayers or services are usually held at set times, often in the evening when more visitors can attend.
Your funeral director can help plan a schedule that suits your family's expected number of visitors and religious requirements.
Religious practice
Religious and Ceremonial Elements
The specific rituals observed during a wake depend on the family's faith and traditions.
Your funeral director or religious representative can explain what to expect for your family's specific tradition.
For visitors
What Guests Can Expect When Visiting
- Signing a condolence book or offering words of comfort to the family
- Observing or joining in prayers, depending on personal beliefs and comfort level
- Viewing photographs or tributes displayed in memory of the deceased
- Sitting with the family for a period before departing
Guests unfamiliar with the specific customs can quietly observe others or ask a family member for guidance on etiquette.
Remembrance
Eulogies and Tributes
Family members or close friends are often invited to share a eulogy, recounting memories and honouring the life of the deceased. This can take place during the wake itself or as part of the funeral service.
Some families also choose to display photographs, videos or personal items as part of the tribute.
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Our funeral directors can help arrange the schedule, venue and religious elements of your family's wake.
Final day
The Day of the Funeral
On the final day, the wake typically concludes with a last set of prayers or a formal service, followed by a procession to the crematorium or burial ground.
This is often the most emotional part of the process, and funeral directors generally coordinate the logistics closely so that the family can focus on saying their final goodbyes.
Etiquette
General Etiquette for Attending a Wake
- Dress modestly and avoid overly bright colours, unless the family has specified otherwise.
- Keep your visit relatively brief unless invited to stay longer.
- Offer condolences simply and sincerely.
- Follow the lead of family members regarding any religious rituals.
- Silence your phone before entering the wake area.
Practical reference
Wake Planning Checklist
Common questions
Frequently Asked Questions
How long does a funeral wake usually last?
Wakes in Singapore commonly last between one and five days, depending on religious practice and family preference.
What should I do if I am unfamiliar with the religious customs?
It is perfectly acceptable to quietly observe others or ask a family member for guidance. Most families appreciate the gesture of attendance regardless of familiarity with specific rituals.
Is a eulogy required?
No, but many families choose to include one as a meaningful way to honour the deceased's life during the wake or funeral service.
What happens after the wake ends?
The wake typically concludes with a final service and a procession to the crematorium or burial ground on the last day.
Where can the wake be held?
Visit our funeral parlours page to compare available venue options in Singapore.
Final guidance
A Time for Remembrance and Support
A funeral wake, at its heart, is an opportunity for family and friends to come together, honour a life and support one another through loss. Knowing what to expect can help everyone attend with greater comfort and confidence.
Read our complete guide to planning a funeral in Singapore or contact our funeral directors for assistance.
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