Christian Funeral Customs, Explained.

Part 1

The Wake

The wake gives relatives and friends the chance to pay their respects before the funeral service itself. Visitors are usually welcomed to sit with the family, view photographs of the deceased, and offer quiet words of comfort.

Short prayer sessions or hymn singing are often held during the wake, led by a pastor, church elder or family member.

Part 2

Scripture Readings

Bible passages are read during the service to offer comfort and reflect the Christian belief in eternal life. Common readings speak of hope, resurrection and God's comfort for those who grieve.

Family members are sometimes invited to choose or read a passage that held particular meaning for the deceased.

Part 3

Hymns and Music

Hymns are sung throughout the wake and funeral service as an expression of faith and shared comfort. Families often choose hymns that were meaningful to the deceased, alongside traditional favourites known to the wider congregation.

Music also gives visitors, regardless of their own beliefs, a way to participate respectfully in the service.

Part 4

The Eulogy

The eulogy is usually delivered by a close family member or friend, and sometimes by the pastor, recounting the life, faith and character of the deceased.

This is often the most personal part of the service, offering space to share memories that reflect who the person truly was.

Part 5

The Sermon

A pastor or church leader typically delivers a short sermon, connecting the scripture readings to the Christian understanding of death, grief and hope. This part of the service is intended to comfort the family and reaffirm shared beliefs.

Part 6

Holy Communion

Some denominations include Holy Communion as part of the funeral service, while others do not. This varies significantly between churches, so it is worth checking with the family's pastor or church in advance.

Families following Catholic tradition may notice additional differences in the structure of the Mass. Our guide to Catholic funeral services explains this in more detail.

Part 7

The Committal

The final part of the service takes place at the crematorium or burial ground, where the pastor leads a short prayer of committal, entrusting the deceased to God's care.

This is often a quieter, more intimate moment, attended mainly by close family and friends.

Part 8

Flowers and Tributes

Floral wreaths and tributes are commonly displayed at the wake as a sign of respect and remembrance. Some families request donations to a church or charity in lieu of flowers, which is entirely acceptable and should simply be communicated to guests in advance.

For visitors

Etiquette for Guests

• Modest, respectful attire is generally appropriate.
• Guests are welcome to join in hymns and prayers, but are not obliged to do so if unfamiliar or uncomfortable.
• A brief, sincere condolence to the family is always appreciated.
• Photography should be avoided unless specifically welcomed by the family.

Practical reference

Christian Funeral Planning Checklist

Common questions

Frequently Asked Questions

Final guidance

A Service Rooted in Faith and Comfort

Each part of a Christian funeral, from the wake to the final committal, is designed to offer comfort to the grieving family and honour the deceased's faith. Understanding the meaning behind these customs can help everyone present feel more at peace during the service.

Read more about our Christian funeral services or contact our funeral directors to begin planning.